Moving forward, get your balance

It quickly became clear that my relationship with the Nanny was not properly glued together. We could not sustain the union mainly because we had no form of common ground. In other words, we were not on the same wavelength or better yet not on the same page.

You see it is very important to realize when things are not working or when you are not feeling comfortable with your helper, with either what she does, how she acts and just her demeanour entirely. And then you have to make the difficult decision of letting her go.
Imagine being at work and counting the hours till you get home just to see if all is well, or wishing you could be a fly in the house to observe her while she takes care of the baby and if she does the things she needs to do. Like, sterilize the baby’s bottles, rinsing utensils before use, washing hands before making contact with the baby and just the routine that she follows.

I once asked my then Nanny to give me AriBear’s bottle she brought it to me piping hot and filled up to the brim. To say I was shocked would be an understatement, the directions clearly say, “let the water cool down to room temperature” and they give you directions for the quantity you need for each serving. And yes off course we did speak about this along with every other thing. So again when the union is shaky let it go, honey!

I had to quickly make a plan for AriBear and since I sent the Nanny home it had to be a very fast plan. So we set down with Hubby and discussed the only solution we had, which was finding a crèche. Let me just say I didn’t know the price ranges for enrolling a child at day-care/crèche so if your child is still home, keep them there! The boxes you need to tick are so much, and you also need to make sure your baby’s “second home” will cater to their specific needs and in my case accommodate my baby’s allergies (milk, eggs, peanuts, and wheat) without having panic attacks while at work worrying about her. The crèche is good they are welcoming and really understand the anxieties that parents have, so I am satisfied.

The problem with taking a child that stayed home with a close-knit family to crèche is that they will be sick. It’s the whole being exposed to a lot of people all at once for the first time, it affects her immune system. My AriBear has a runny nose and a cough, it’s sad and scary but normal. We took her to the doctor and we got some medication which is working, a bit. It’s winter and her being exposed all the time is not helping at all. A mommy friend suggested crèche guard, I will try it and see.

With all the mommy duties and everything in between you find yourself cringing whenever you hear a knock. The house is a mess, a very good manageable mess where I can find what I want. But I am not sure I want to share this mess with other people, there are tiny socks and tiny baby clothing items here and there with AriBear throwing anything she can reach on the floor from the bed and couches, so it’s crazy. Soldier on is all you can do, one task at a time and if you can’t do all of them in one day it’s perfectly fine. It’s important not to bury yourself too deep, your sanity is what steers the ship.

So a very well done to all you super mommy’s out there!

You’re doing great!